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Tips to Spot an Online Dating Scam

Posted 7/10/2015

Online dating scam basics

Because humans are social creatures many people are looking for love and friendship. In online dating scam the scammers are taking advantage of the human's basic need for love and friendship.

Typical online dating scam begins always the same way; The scammer creates a bond with the person being scammed. Someone starts chatting with you and you enjoy the long chats with them and eventually become interested. Over time you start to feel that there is a bond between you two. But then right out of the blue the scammer needs some money. Maybe there's a personal crisis or a short term lack of funds. Maybe it’s the reason why he or she cannot meet you!

Online dating fraud estimations

  • Number of online dating frauds are growing every year
  • Most of the dating frauds are made online
  • The average loss is between 2000€ or 3000€ (~2200$ to 3300$)
  • The average time between initial contact and the realization of the fraud is 2 months
  • Average victim is between 45 and 60 years of age
  • Victims can be both male or female
  • Female scammer is typically between 25 and 30 (or at leas claims to be) and usually targets males who are aged between 40 and 60
  • Male scammer is typically between 40 and 50 years of age and usually targets females who are aged between 40 and 60.
  • The scammers target their frauds to people with age between 40 and 60 because people in this age group are normally financially secure


Warning signs

Scammers usually use a lot of phrases and variations like:

  • A man who knows how to treat a woman and who understands her deep inside.
  • My dream is to be in arms of a right and wise man.
  • I am romantic, tender, honest, intelligent and active lady
  • I'm Forthright and honest
  • I value integrity a sense of fairness.
  • I like to laugh
  • I've been described as having a good sense of humor

Typical actions of a scammer

  • Scammer quickly declares that he/she has fallen in love
  • Scammer claims to normally live in the UK or USA (or other western country) but have to work overseas typically somewhere in Africa, Asian or Latin America.
  • Most of the female scammer profiles use photos copied from modelling websites or other websites containing pictures of beautiful women, so the photos look neat and are very professionally taken
  • Many male scammers use photos that appear to be everyday snaps
  • Scammer usually wants to leave the dating site too soon
  • Sob stories to drag people into emotional blackmail (stories and variations of missionary or volunteer work or orphanages needing money)

If you want to get to know the most common dating scams and frauds read one of the previous posts on this link.

Get to know also this article about Online Dating Security - Basic rules and Tips

You can also download the complete guide, an eight pages long pdf presentation of Online Dating Security - Basic scams & frauds - Rules & Tips.


How to avoid online dating scam

You can avoid online dating scams by increasing your awareness about the most common online dating scams and getting to know online dating security issues.

The best way to avoid online dating scams is to use only good reputation dating sites which come with a quality member database (no fake profiles). One of these kind of good reputation dating sites is for example AsianDating which you can get to know via this link.

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